When my oldest was younger she was full of questions. We nicknamed her chatterbox, and would jokingly tease her about talking a lot. Of course it was all in fun and none of our jokes were hurtful. And she even liked the nickname. She could go on and on from sun up to sun down, talking about any and everything. She’d tell jokes, make up short stories, and ask question after question until she received an answer she was satisfied with. Her constant babbling could easily work a nerve, so we just smiled and hoped she’d eventually grow out of it. Well that never happened, and I’m glad it didn’t.
At a time when so many of my friends and coworkers are saying “It’s getting harder and harder to talk to my kids!” I am thankful that my daughter was born with the gift of gab. It made talking about her first period and other topics quite easy. We were both so comfortable that it made it that much easier talking to the rest of my girls. We talk about body image, school, boys, bullying, dating, sex, peer pressure, teenage pregnancy and anything else age appropriate. I want them to always know that no subject is off limits. I’d rather they come to me with questions than their friends. I was their age once, so I know how quick friends are to give out the wrong information.
So how did I prepare for talkable moments like the period talk?
I asked questions, they answered. They asked questions, I answered. Then we just talked. My girls aren’t shy and they don’t embarrass easily, so “the talk” has always been easy for us. Plus, I used the same method as my mom did. I always share personal stories to break the ice. After hearing some funny stories about me and my friends, the conversation always takes a life of its own. And before we know it we’ve been talking and laughing for hours. One of my favorite ways to bond with my girls is while watching our favorite TV shows. Some of the situations playing out on the TV screen are things that are happening in real life, so watching can be a great ice breaker. I often ask my girls what they would do in that situation, and they love to share how they would react. It’s also a great way to clarify any misinformation.
If you are getting ready to have “the talk” with your daughter, you are probably already thinking of ways to approach the topic. You don’t want to sound like a robot or like you’re giving a speech, so I suggest that you keep conversation as natural as possible. I find that kids relate more and make an effort to engage in the conversation when you take this approach.
Kotex sent our girls cosmetic bags that included: lip balm, a mirror and brush compact, a nail file, 3 bandages and 2 pony tail holders. We added a few U by Kotex Tween liners and pads then placed them in their backpacks for when school starts. They are great to have on hand in case of an emergency!
Kotex is also here to help. They have plenty of resources available, including tips on how to talk to your daughter about her period. And you can also find period questions that could be helpful for tweens and teens on the U by Kotex Tween website.
Periods, pads and panty liners - are you comfortable talking about them? How was your talkable moment?
I wrote this review while participating in a Brand Ambassador Campaign by Mom Central Consulting on behalf of U by Kotex Tween and received products to facilitate my post and a promotional item to thank me for taking the time to participate.